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Boss, I will be gone to Lubbock, Texas for the next couple of days due to an emergency that's come up with a very old and dear friend. Her husband fell and hit his head badly the other day. They did surgery. He is not waking up, and they don't know why (he does have another ongoing serious condition as well). She, understandably, is a wreck. Please, for those who are inclined to prayer, pray hard for Dee Miranda, and her husband Dave. For those not, please send all the white light, and positive thoughts you can. Thanks.

K.

we'll put him in our prayers to recover

We're back home now, he's still unresponsive. The news isn't good.

In order, and briefly: He fell and hit his head badly. They did surgery for the resulting hematoma. He was fine and responding for two days after that, got agitated that he was on the ventilator, so they sedated him. He has a multitude of conditions, one being that his liver isn't good, so the sedation will take a lot longer than it would you or me or others with healthy livers to get out of his system (they did eventually take him off of it, finding him no longer responsive). He has diabetes also. Somewhere during this time he also contracted pneumonia. He went I guess you could say "to sleep", and hasn't woken up since. They are not calling this a full-blown coma. He isn't responding to any stimuli, though, at all, for the doctors. He's on artificial life support.

HOWEVER, when we got there, his stats had much improved, and his fever from the pneumonia had come completely down. The MRI they'd just done, showed just a slight bit of swelling on the brain, not enough to do what's going on now. His pupils in his eyes are even equal and reactive to light.

Why he's unresponsive, still is a mystery, both to the doctors and to everyone else. His stats are fine. There are times when he *appears* to respond to his wife and to me, but we are not sure if they are automatic responses that happen while one is "out" like this, or if they are real responses, because he doesn't respond at all to the doctors' attempts to wake him up (very little things like, the one eye he can open, that isn't swollen from the surgery, appears to open and look at us; when we walked into his hospital room for the first time, his whole other side from the surgery visibly jerked, and we were talking with each other at the time so he would have heard us; he *seems* more relaxed when his wife or I hold his hand; he appeared to open the one eye and follow me around the room with it at one point today).

It's a waiting game now, and he is a very sick man, with many physical ailments; however, we are hopeful that maybe he is awake and aware, but literally CAN'T physically respond because of maybe pain from the surgery, or that he's just physically wiped out, or that maybe he needs this "sleeping time" in order to heal from each one of the issues. We'll see.

time will tell but we are all pulling for him
the fact that his eyes are following is a very good sign
our thoughts are with you all

Thanks.

I'm headed for Lubbock again - doesn't look like he's going to make it. Please send prayers, white light, positive thoughts, whatever you've got to Dee Miranda, Dave Miranda, and Dave's mother as well. Thanks.

After a very rough day and night, Sunday morning he woke up more stable. He's still critical; there's about a 50/50 chance IIRC. We almost lost him, but I'm keeping to the positive side and believing that it won't happen, even if he does come close, and even when things look really bleak. He could go either way from here on. Keep up the white light, if you would please.

May be going home later today depending on how he's doing. We'll see.

Thanks so much.

K.

He had started doing quite a bit better, got a tracheotomy, and from there really began doing well; was responding to those around him, and seemed to be stabilizing quite well.

However, about a week ago, he started failing again, and tonight I've received word that they are sending him home on hospice. He's not going to make it, unless a real miracle happens at this point. His body's just worn out.

I'm going to do whatever I can for those he will be leaving behind starting tomorrow (it's still a bit of June 20th left here, not much, but some), one of those (and mostly) being my very good friend, his wife.

I have no other words at this time. Grief is pretty overwhelming.

Edit: Wait, yeah, I do have a couple of words here. They're not going to be nice, and I think they won't bode well on you as members here. I won't be around due to this and many other things going on in my own life right now. I fail to see why others here at this forum don't get up off their rears when viking and I are not here, and post a thing or two yourselves. I'm to where I'm tired of seeing the two of us for the most part carry the ball here insofar as posts go, and I'm not going to do it any more. I'm tired of being online, and I'm tired of caring about anything that goes on, online, because I'm so burned out doing everyone else's posting and crap everywhere for them. I so far have done what I've done out of goodness of heart, but I'm telling you straight up that when I see things in real life like I'm seeing now, this place all of a sudden becomes very unimportant to me. Why you guys can't carry the ball for a while is well beyond me, but to leave things to others to do is pretty damn rotten IMO. I've used my own resources to promote this forum, I've posted about it everywhere, and I've posted in it. I've worked very hard for this place, and so has viking, just for everyone to sit back on it. We didn't build this place for ourselves. We built it for YOU. If you don't give a damn, then speak right up, and say so. I'd be more than happy when I can clear my schedule long enough to, to go out and find members who do give a damn. Hell, I found you, didn't I?

This forum is over a year old now, and you guys still can't get up off your dead butts to make it what it could be, which is a helluva lot of potential to go a lot of places. A lot of you I hand-picked for this forum, because I thought you'd be up off it helping to make something out of it, but I guess I was wrong about you all. The only reason I have posted what I have (and it's probably the same for viking), as much as I have, is because YOU GUYS DIDN'T. By the way, you can respond to all this what you want to, how you want to. I won't be here to see it.

Forgive me viking. I had to say it. I'm angry at this. Very.

Screw it.

They uh, removed him from all life support yesterday...

i am so sorry to hear that
i lost my sister in law about 4 months ago to cancer and its still a bit painful for us
my heart goes out to you as i know what your going through
I haven't even been on my computer for almost 2 months
between therapy and school ive been quite busy

Today there is no breakdown, as there is community business to tend to. Yesterday's breakdown will have to continue later today, or tomorrow.

My heart aches for this couple. This woman has been one of my best friends locally for 6 years. She has helped me a lot. He didn't want things to be like this. He's always been a trooper, fighting death fiercely and ferociously. I'll never forget the last time I saw him. Dee's heart is being ripped out of her literally second by second, and it's such a helpless feeling, because there is no comfort for this.

For those with mates, cherish them always. Treasure them. Never let a second go by without them knowing how much you love them.

gnuuser, I'm very very sorry about your sister in law...

Am on the way out of town again to lend what moral support I can to the situation. Take care. *gone